Tuesday, June 9, 2015

A Night at the Tattered Cover

On June 1st, 2015 I addressed an audience of forty plus family, friends and individuals interested in the subject of eldercare at the Tattered Cover on Colfax in Denver, Colorado.  The subject was my new book, The Takeover: An Unexpected Caregiver's Story which chronicles the offbeat and upbeat experiences of moving my parents from Chicago to Denver at the ages of 90 and 95 and then supervising their care.

First I talked about the circumstances that led me to move my parents at their advanced ages.  This was followed by some of the roller coaster rides that I experienced, the issues that I was faced with, and the takeaways of what I learned. In between these discussion points, I read a few excerpts from the book.

To back up my personal story and make me look more “legitimate,” I had asked Rosanne Collison, owner of Kinsman Care, a geriatric care management company to follow me and summarize some of the most important parts of caregiving.  Whereas I talked about incontinence, falls and ER visits, Rosanne explained the hot spots to identify when a caregiver is in need of relief:  resentment, anger, guilt, weight gain.

Afterwards, lots of books were signed and lots of comments were made.  Amazingly, even since the book came out at the end of October, the reactions are always fresh and revealing.

One woman asked me who I thought made the best nurturer.  Was it a man or a woman?  Which sibling might be better suited?

A single man of 70 wanted to know if I had any suggestions on where to go to look for senior housing.

The subject of "quality of life' was mentioned by another person attending.

Another lady came up and said that the idea of having an adventure in old age such as my mom and dad had when they moved to Denver inspired her to not be afraid of change regardless of one's age.

To see so many people open up about a subject no one wants to discuss gave me solace that we can make the growing old thing more comfortable and more user friendly.  That’s my hope and I’ve made a vow to myself to keep working at it.

What a great night!

Friday, May 22, 2015

Takeover News

It's been a busy few months for me as I try to make people aware of the presence of my new book, The Takeover: An Unexpected Caregiver's Story.

Some of the highlights:

--Being accepted by the Tattered Cover to shelve my book in the Rocky Mountain Authors section at all three Tattered Cover Bookstores.

--Becoming a contributor to the Colorado State AARP blog on caregiving

--Being invited to give a book presentation at the Tattered Cover Bookstore on Colfax on June 1st 2015.

--Making my first presentation in Vail at Bnai Vail's April Havurah.

--Being interviewed by Ryan Warner of Colorado Matters on Colorado Public Radio

In between I have had tremendous feedback from family, friends, acquaintances and their network connections.  Just a few are described and paraphrased below:

---As a professional, I enjoyed hearing about the perspective of the consumer who was the caregiver.

---The book made me feel like I was not alone.

---The Takeover helped me come to terms with my own decisions.

---I loved the appendix.

---I want to give this to my children so they can start thinking about the subject.

---I couldn't put the book down.

---It's not "sugar coated."

Now I am looking forward to my Tattered Cover presentation on June 1st.  I especially am looking forward to the audience participation.  When you're writing your book, you want to hear the feedback in the hopes that you have connected with your reader.

More to come.